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1.14.2015

A COFFEE DATE | VOL. 2



It's been a while since we last sat down to have coffee, and I'm so excited to see you! You'll walk in out of the rain, I'll wave you over and slide your favorite drink across the table as I sip on a white chocolate mocha. A must-have to warm my spirits in the winter months.

We'll start with the regular chit chat. How was your day? How was work? Did you see that hilarious Jimmy Fallon video? "Which one?" you'll ask, because they are all hilarious. We'll giggle over all the incredibly hilarious and awkward parts, and I'll laugh so hard tears may run down my face. It feels good to laugh like that.

I'll tell you about work, and how we are entering our super crazy season where I have to remind myself to breathe. Taking it one email and one project at a time. #theofficelife. I'll tell you that the post-Christmas winter is hard for me because there is just not enough sunshine to go around, and girl, do I need my sunshine. Where's that Vitamin D, amiright?

Because I don't always love talking about myself, I'll turn the conversation back to you. I'll ask how you're doing with the big cross-country move coming up this week, or how you are feeling in the midst of what seems like a mid-life crisis, or how your mama's doctor appointment went. I'll grab your hand as the tears and the fears well up, and I'll nod because I have them too, but we'll rest in the promises that Jesus is strong even when we can't be, that he has a plan, and that he is the ultimate healer of our bodies and the redeemer of our souls. And because all of my friends are having babies right now, we'll talk about your baby and how the plans for the nursery are coming along. You might try to get me to spill the beans on all the baby shower planning, but I am like a vault, friend, and you aren't getting any details from me! It is going to be a surprise! :)

You'll ask me about the plans I have for this year. Where I want to go and what I want to accomplish. I'll tell you how excited I am to be in my little sister's wedding next month, standing alongside her and some dear friends as she promises her life to the one she loves. I'll squeal a little when I tell you that in March I'm going to New York to visit a friend I've never actually met in real life, but that I feel like I've known forever. The rest of the year is currently unplanned and I kind of like it that way. I love getting to dream and plan as the year goes along...filling up my calendar with adventures both big and small. I'll say I'm excited to pursue my hobbies more this year by taking a photography class or two, trying my hand at drawing again, and creating quality content for my blog as that space grows. I'm excited to make new friends this year, to strengthen the friendships I've already been given, and to cultivate an encouraging community.

A comfortable silence will settle as we both prepare to dive into what's really weighing on our hearts. The things that go deeper than the every day.

I'll tell you that life weighs heavier some days more than others, and you'll nod your head because you know. I'll laugh at myself when I tell you how I sat on the cold basement floor this weekend, surrounded by old design projects, and cried my eyes out as I looked at reminders of a shattered dream. It was surprisingly emotional and yet freeing to get rid of some of that stuff. Moving on in life and facing the unknown with confidence is a challenging thing to do. I want this year to be one full of grace. Grace that I offer to others and to myself. I want my heart to be gentle and gracious and patient and kind. Those are qualities I have to pray for every single day. I'll tell you that at church on Sunday I was reminded that God is, in fact, more concerned for my well being than I am, even when it doesn't always feel that way. His goodness goes far beyond anything I will ever know. He understands, he accepts, he provides, he carries, he delivers, and I shall not want.

The rain outside has turned into a misty mess. The kind that makes your hair frizzy by just looking at it. I'll sigh and take the last sip of that white chocolate mocha I've been savoring. You'll hug me goodbye, and I'll head home feeling encouraged, a weight lifted, and my heart warmed. I'll text you when I get home just to say thanks for taking time out of your busy schedule to spend with me. Your friendship means the world to me, and I certainly don't take it for granted. Thanks for listening, for sharing, and for walking with me on this long and winding adventure called life.

34 comments:

Josra said...

I would say, that "A coffee date" is one of my favorite post series on here, I really enjoy your writing style! :) This is my definition on a perfect coffee date. And not just because of the white chocolate mocha, the best by the way, but because of this hearttalk.

Eryn Ivey said...

This was a perfect read today. The weather is exactly as you described. My tea latte is brewing. Prayers for you and your dreams for 2015. I pray for similar things: patience, selfless love, kindness. Sisters in Christ!

Amanda G. said...

How freeing and amazing it can be when we give ourselves permission to be human and to allow grace to others but especially ourselves. Love this.

Betsy Gettis said...

Why do I feel like we'd be total besties if we lived nearby? Loved reading this post! :)

Daisy @ Simplicity Relished said...

Such a good read, Meg! You have a way with words. Thanks for sharing about your life!!

Erin Green said...

Loved the uniqueness of this writing- a beautiful way to arrange these words! Thanks for sharing.

Lacey White said...

How sweet was this. Perfectly transparent, I totally agree with Betsy when I say we could totally be friends. I love your heart and you're a really great writer! Excited to read more !!

TheJessaOlsonBlog said...

I wish we lived closer. It was great to meet you at renew. You know exactly what to say. Things have been rough lately and i need to remember to lean on God instead of trying to force control of it myself.

Haley Bohon said...

Dang girl. I love this. I FELT like I was in that coffeeshop with you!! It's misty-rainy in NC right now though, so that part of it wasn't hard to imagine ;)

Stacia said...

I love the way you wrote this post! Beautiful.


What do you plan to do in NYC while you're there?

Elizabeth Mayberry said...

Sweet Megan, I don't know what you are talking about but it is clearly snowing outside but the sun is magically out at the same time. It is lovely here. You should just move ;) I love hearing your heart in this post. Do these each month. We need it. It touches our soul.


Also, obviously you are going to be there before me! Being on time is so hard but I love that you are always gracious!

Samantha@Elah Tree said...

Meg, these are, for reals, my favorite posts of yours. They're so sweet and lovely and it's like your heart on paper. I want to read these all the time.

mariahelena said...

Great post!

Jenna Griffin said...

Love love love this, Meg!
You are such a beautiful writer. If I was sitting down to coffee with you, I'd ask about that dream you had that was shattered. We would probably go back and forth sharing thoughts on lost dreams, and give each other hope for future dreams!
Love you, friend!


PS, NYC is soooo much fun! Have you been before?

Britney said...

i love this girl! I totally felt like i was right there with you!
I've always wanted to go to NYC, how long are you going for?

Hannie Blaise said...

Ohhh I loved reading this, the idea and this post is so cool and creative!

SOMETIMES I FEEL LIKE ALICE.

Amy said...

this was fantastic.

this line: "The rain outside has turned into a misty mess. The kind that makes your hair frizzy by just looking at it."

start writing fiction.
that's an order twin ;)

Meg McIlvaine said...

Thank you so much, Josra! I need to do more of them. :)

Meg McIlvaine said...

Thanks Eryn! I pray those things for all of us!

Meg McIlvaine said...

Mmm Amen. Thanks for stopping by, Amanda!

Meg McIlvaine said...

Haha I think we would be, Betsy!

Meg McIlvaine said...

Oh thank you, Daisy, and thanks for reading!

Meg McIlvaine said...

You are too kind, thank you!

Meg McIlvaine said...

Jessa! That retreat was so great, wasn't it? And yes, I need that reminder all of the time.

Meg McIlvaine said...

Aw! That is a compliment..thank you! Maybe one day we'll get to grab coffee in real life!

Meg McIlvaine said...

Thank you!


I'll actually be a little north of NYC and I'm not sure what our plans are yet! But I am super excited!

Meg McIlvaine said...

Bahahah.


I think I'll try to do more of these! :)

Meg McIlvaine said...

Thanks, sweet sam! I'll write more, I promise :)

Meg McIlvaine said...

Thank you!

Meg McIlvaine said...

Oh Jenna, thank you! I would love to sit down and talk about our shattered dreams and our hopes for the future. Let's do that sometime. :)


I HAVE been to NYC but I'll be a bit north of the city on this trip and I'm not sure what our plans are! @Samantha@Elah Tree is keeping it a secret ;)

Meg McIlvaine said...

Thanks Britney! I'll be in New York for a long weekend! I hoping for snow ;)

Meg McIlvaine said...

Thank you!

Meg McIlvaine said...

Hahahah. Oh man...so much pressure! ;)

Stacia said...

Can't wait to hear what you do! I'm sure it will be great!